During my consultations, I often come across the people who asks me the above question. The question is some time life threatening for couples in love where one of them is mangalik and other is not. They neither can separate nor their families are ready to accept it. Even in case of arranged marriages, very good prospects are often shelved only because of this aspect of Astrology. Sometime families fall apart only on this issue without fully knowing what it actually means. As usual, because of the great fear attributed to it, Mangal Dosha or Kuja Dosha, became a very good grazing ground for unscrupulous astrologers who forgot the basic benevolent idealism of astrology- ‘Manushya hitaytarthya’ i.e ‘For the help of Mankind’. Naive people ends up paying huge money to these ‘Thugs’.
I am sure the people who found this article got a fare knowledge of the Mangala Dosa since probably he/she or his/her dearest one is affected by it. So I am not going to discuss it in details to lengthen the article. If you don’t know it please google. Anyway, the standard characteristics of this dosha, as stated in the traditional astrology, are as follows:
1. People of both the sexes can be Manglik.
2. The planet of Mars represents respect, energy, ego and self-esteem. Therefore one with the Mangal Dosha has a volatile temper. Manglik individuals thus face a lot of problems in bending and adjusting with their partners.
3. The energy of Manglik individuals can be compared to that of fire. Therefore this energy needs to be used in the right direction and in doing something constructive, or otherwise they might become ruthless.
4. Mangal Dosha affects the married life, mental state, and also leads to financial loss.
5. If a Manglik person is born on Tuesday the effects are nullified.
6. Also the marriage between two Manglik individuals cancels the negative effects.
Hence, from above we got two remedies, first if a mangalik person born on Tuesday (Mangal Var) and secondly if a mangalik marries a mangalik. But first one is a chance factor depending on God all mighty and here we are discussing Mangalik and Non-Mangalik Marriage, so the second one is not much of use for us.
Now, before proceeding further, let me explain few things. First, Indian learning, knowledge, philosophy in the early days were much ahead of their time. If we keenly observe the works of our great sages in any fields, be it Ayurveda, Yoga, Astrology, the intention was always application of the knowledge for the betterment of mankind. The application part became so important that often the theory behind such applications remain with the very academic few and over the passage of time it went to the realm of obscurity. Poor record keeping or rather destruction of valuable written documents by the later dogmatic dynasties further destroyed the links. But the applications of them withstand the passage of time and even we apply many norms in astrology, yoga, ayurveda without knowing why and how the norms work but well, they do work.
There are many examples where we Indian use many rites traditionally and the reason behind is discovered by Science in recent years. For example our Grand mothers always knew that leaf of Ghrit Kumari is good for skin and hair and now Hidusthan Liver and other multy nationals are dancing with Allovera Oils and Soaps. In India, pregnant women are suggested have food cooked in Iron Kadais since time immemorial. Now western world found that Iron intake is vital for pregnancy.
So if we draw the analogy from above, the original idea behind mangal dosha and it remedies were balancing of energy. Mars affected people are very energetic. Since, spouse is suppose to be the other wheel of the life chariot, matching of energy is extremely essential for harmonious run of the life and family . The point is further strengthen from the fact that a mangalik can marry a mangalik. This clearly shows that energy matching is the original theory behind this dictum. Even the other rituals like fasting, having Puja etc are also to reduce the energy level in more civilized manner to mach the lesser energy.
( To be Continued……)